I hate selfies. At least I used to. Whenever I’d see people post “too many” selfies, even from friends whom I adored, I’d feel annoyed and think all sorts of mean thoughts about them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Since I’ve been on this journey, which has been peeling away layer upon layers of parts of myself that don’t belong to me, I have been pushing myself to do more selfies (especially ones where I’m not smiling to make others comfortable). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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When I used to look at pictures of myself, I used to immediately go to all the things I didn’t like about myself – my flaws (both exterior and interior) because I was too afraid of being seen. Now that I’ve been working on my inside, exposing all the parts of me that I once feared lessened my worth, I am working on showing the outside. Learning to love ourselves has to be embodied in ALL parts of us, inside, outside, mind, body and soul.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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So when a woman tells me now that she hates her selfies, I get it and I also get excited because with those feelings come an opportunity. Whenever we don’t like something about ourselves, it is a precious chance for us to examine why, looking at the underlying reasons, and to learn to see our worth and love ourselves as we are. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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And by the way, many women who haven’t worked on their insides who love posting selfies will freak out if you take away their control of their images. We all struggle with similar things that just manifest in different ways. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Do you hate your selfies? Do you want to use that as an opportunity for growth? DM me to explore how you might learn to embody your true self through self-acceptance and love through a portrait experience.
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